Christian dating isn’t that different from other dating circles. And like other dating circles, attraction plays an important role in Christian dating too. We can’t deny the fact that in looking for a date, his/her looks will always matter. Of course, it isn’t the most important basis when it comes to dating but it still matters a lot. I am not saying that we shouldn’t pay attention to the physical aspect. What I mean to say is that should only be one of our considerations. The most important aspect in dating would have to be the attraction you have for each other. Attraction should be physical and mental; not just one of them. In addition to this, it shouldn’t be a one-way attraction. What I mean by this is that you both should be attracted to each other for a relationship to work. Searching for a date that is compatible with you is easy nowadays; you can find them online through Christian personals.
After both sides have developed “chemistry” with each other, there can be a possibility that this chemistry will diminish after a few dates or so. With the chemistry that sparked the relationship gone, the couple might decide to stop the said relationship. This is proof that people tend to place too much importance on chemistry and physical attraction. The following are other things that you should know about the effects of chemistry in a relationship.
A couple that had chemistry in the start of a relationship but lost it after a few dates simply didn’t have chemistry to begin with. Whatever they had that sparked the start of their relationship isn’t chemistry. It could either be infatuation or they were clouded by their fantasy of a “perfect” relationship. If you are not sure why you are attracted to someone or if your reason for attraction is only skin deep, then it would be best to not to dive into a relationship blindingly. Trust me; you will regret it in the future.
On the other hand, it is a good thing if you developed chemistry after going on a few dates and hanging out with that certain someone. This time, you can be sure that it is indeed chemistry that you both have and not just infatuation. If you started dating a guy just because of your “feelings” or attraction for him, it may not always have great results. It is sad to say that our feelings alone don’t guarantee a long and fruitful relationship.
For my Christian advice on relationships: If you want to have a healthy and serious relationship, you should first take your time and get to know your partner. Get advice from your friends and family. However, remember that you are only asking them for advice and you don’t necessarily need to follow everything you say. Ask God’s guidance and ask Him to help you find that right person that you truly deserve. Do not force yourself into a relationship just for the sake of being in one. God has a plan for everyone; do your part and He will do the rest.
